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Last updated October 14, 2025
Social Anxiety and the Painful Illusion of Separateness
One of the most insidious and painful aspects of social anxiety many of my clients describe is the feeling of being alone, disconnected, and different from others. These feelings, and the perceptions and beliefs associated with them, can both contribute to and be the result of high levels of distress and suffering in social situations.
Reclaiming Connection Through Shared Humanity
Social anxiety often thrives on the belief that our internal struggles are unique, fostering a sense of isolation. This perception can lead individuals to assume that others are more confident or free from similar anxieties. However, recognizing that feelings of self-doubt and apprehension are common human experiences can be liberating. By acknowledging that others may also grapple with similar insecurities, we can begin to dismantle the barriers that social anxiety constructs, paving the way for more authentic connections.
Over the years, I have utilized two very simple but powerful practices to help work with these feelings. They are drawn from two of my favorite teachers, Pema Chodron and the Dalai Llama. I will describe the practices briefly, and discuss how to understand and utilize them in connection with a Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) approach.
To read more visit the nationalsocialanxietycenter.com
About the author
Dr. Robert Yeilding, PsyD
Dr. Yeilding earned his doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology. He is a Diplomate of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and he currently serves as a board member for the National Social Anxiety Center, which is dedicated to fostering evidence-based treatment for social anxiety. Dr. Yeilding specializes in helping adults and adolescents with depressive and anxiety disorders, specializing in treating social anxiety, insomnia, panic disorder, OCD, and managing and finding growth in life transitions. He uses Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and mindfulness strategies, proven strategies that provide results.
YCBT Services is proud to be the Bixby Knolls - Long Beach, CA regional clinic for the National Social Anxiety Center, which was established to make quality psychotherapy services available to those in need.
Through research, collaboration and educating clinicians and the public, NSAC is committed to improving services and care for people seeking help for social anxiety. Visit NSAC here for more information about Social Anxiety.